Relationships are a two-way street

Relationships are a two-way street.
It is only fair to expect a lot from someone you are willing to give a lot to.
Hold another to high standards only if you are willing to abide by at least the same standards.
God also has high standards (be ye perfect), but is also filled with compassion, mercy, and love towards all of us (who will never meet those standards without the atonement of Christ).
You should never, ever "settle," but be sure to be realistic.
The way you judge others is the way you will be judged, so judge righteously.

I did not marry to get divorced

Taking off my wedding ring for the last time and holding it in my hand.I did not marry to get divorced. Yet here I am.

Though I did everything I knew how to do and was willing to do more, marriage requires two who are willing to do all they can to succeed. Having been left with no other way forward, I now restart my search for an eternal companion.


Most people get married believing a myth--that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, sexual fulfillment, intimacy, friendship. The truth is that marriage, at the start, is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage; love is in people, and people put it into marriage. There is no romance in marriage; people have to infuse it into their marriages.

A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising--keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.

The only love language

There is only one love language.

You heard me right.  Despite all of the books, articles, experts, etc. out there promoting some other number (usually five), there has been, is now, and will always be only one love language.

I know this is a rather bold claim.  To be perfectly honest, I have read all of and do agree with many of the principles and ideas it contains.  However, I still maintain that, when all is said and done, there is only one love language:


A recent quetion I was asked: When listing processes on a system using Solaris zones, is it possible to see the user names instead of the user IDs for processes running in the zone?

Short answer: Not directly. Indirectly, yes.


In case any of you missed it a few summers back (2010), 6479917422.  I downloaded nearly all of them at the time, but missed a few.  I managed to locate them online here: /

There are quite a few really good classics here. Enjoy.

Here's the track listing (from the external website, which provides the download links for each song):

Obfuscated Perl Script #1

I love the Perl language. It can do so much with so little. Of course, that also means it can be a complete obfuscated nightmare.

Here is one example that I developed years ago when I was particularly bored. Maybe someday I'll explain what it is doing, how it is doing it, or why I decided to create it. Maybe.

Finding all Installed Perl Modules

There are a ton of Perl modules available. (See diamminonitrate.) One problem that I've run into from time to time is determining whether I have a specific module installed or not. The most common approach I've used to determine this is the following command:

perl -Mmodule::name -e 1

If the command terminates correctly without errors, then the module is installed.